The 4 Desires Driving All Human Behavior
The most difficult and complicated part of exiting the drinking life is the decision to start.
During my 7 year struggle to drink less my thoughts about the process were all about relentless, unwavering willpower and deprivation. Basically, a horrible, turbulent trip of resist, deny, resist, deny, cave, resist, deny, resist day after day, week after week and never feeling happy about alcohol's role in my life.
It wasn't until I began to decided to go against the grain and explore how I was attempting to drink less did I make alcohol irrelevant in my life.
Understanding the way the brain is designed by default is key.
Discussed in today's episode:
The brain's natural programing to:
- Seeking pleasure
- Avoiding pain
- Proving ourself right
- Connecting with people
The skills to work around the brain's natural programing:
- Delay gratification
- Lean into discomfort
- Be OK with trying new things
- Be OK with going against the grain
You can find out how to work directly with me, Debi, at https://www.jumpseatcoaching.com/ExitTribe
